December 1, 2015 Domestic abuse is when one partner harms another partner in some way. It can happen even after the relationship is over. This is where one partner is: Physically abusing you Harassing you Making threats Withholding money or other things Destroying your things Emotionally abusing you Domestic abuse can occur in all types of relationships and men can also suffer domestic abuse.
It s a hard hitting fact that 25% of women and 16% of men are affected by domestic violence during their adult lifetimes. Even more shocking is that 2 women on average are killed each week by their partner or ex-partner in England and Wales. We re raising awareness for The National 16 Days of Action against domestic violence, 25 November 10 December.
Mike Shepherd our Development and Regeneration Director, spoke to Paul Ross on BBC Radio Berkshire about the 5 homes we ll be providing in Hampshire, to help people move on from domestic violence. Listen to the interview here, it starts at 18 mins 10 secs http://bbc.in/1NRQrJk 1 I think I may be suffering domestic abuse If you think you may be experiencing domestic abuse, there are three important steps to take: Recognise that it s happening to you. Often behaviour is repeated over again.
Some abusers say sorry and persuade you that it won t happen again. Accept that you re not to blame it s not easy to explain your partner s behaviour and many victims blame themselves. It s not your fault.
Nobody deserves to suffer this. Tell someone it can be very difficult to take the first step and ask for help. You may find it easier to talk to somebody you trust first.
There are many organisations out there to offer help and support. What can I do? It s a good idea to try to prepare in case you need to leave urgently: Find somewhere safe to stay in an emergency.
This could be with friends or relatives, at a woman s refuge or in emergency accommodation through your local council Save extra money for a bus or taxi fare Get an extra set of keys to the house/car Take important documents and medication What can we do? We ll work with the council and police to get you somewhere safe to stay. We ll try and get you a housing transfer if you can t stay in your home.
Rent arrears won t stop you from being moved to another property. We can also refer you to organisations who can give you more specialist advice and support. If you report domestic abuse, we ll contact you within one working day.
We ll try to arrange for you to be interviewed by someone of the same gender or ethnic background if you wish I think a neighbour or friend is experiencing domestic abuse what can I do to help? Make sure that they re safe. This is the most important thing.
If you suspect an incident is taking place, call the police on 999. Be understanding, supportive and a good listener. They may have to trust you before they can admit that this is happening.
If you re critical, it may stop them telling you any more. Respect their decisions. It may take time for them to get enough courage to seek help or leave the relationship.
You can t force them to take action it must be their decision. Help them get help. They may need you to go to hospital with them, or report it to the police.
You might be able to get information and advice from other organisations on their behalf. Keep yourself safe. Don t offer to talk to the abuser as you may put yourself in danger, and the abuser may punish the person affected by domestic abuse for confiding in you.
Organisations that can help Police Emergencies 999 Non-emergencies 101 Hampshire Domestic Abuse Partnership 2 Crimestoppers Give information anonymously about crime www.crimestoppers-uk.org 3 0800 555 111. Crimestoppers isn t an emergency service and if you see a crime taking place you should ring 999 to report it immediately. If you are a victim of crime you should report this to your local police.
Advice, support and refuge for women 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk 4 0808 2000247 Rights of Women 5 www.rightsofwomen.org.uk 6 Legal helpline: 020 7251 6577 Sexual violence helpline: 020 7251 8887 Stonham Home Group Basingstoke Domestic Abuse Outreach Service 01256 478888 Stonham Home Group Rushmoor and Hart Refuge 01252 337026 Stonham Home Group Eastleigh Refuge 01590 689 497 South West Surrey Domestic Abuse Outreach Service 01483 577392 Surrey Domestic Abuse (24 hour helpline) 01483 776822 Refuge www.refuge.org.uk 7 West Berkshire Domestic Abuse Service 0800 731 0055 Women s Aid www.womensaid.org.uk 8 Advice and support for men ManKind www.mankind.org.uk 9 01823 334244 Men s Advice Line www.mensadviceline.org.uk 10 0808 8010327 Advice and support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people Broken Rainbow www.broken-rainbow.org.uk 11 0300 999 5428 London Lesbian and Gay Switchboard www.llgs.org.uk 12 020 7837 7324 Advice and support for children Childline www.childline.org.uk 13 0800 1111 The Hideout www.thehideout.org.uk 14 Advice and support for parents and families Family Lives www.familylives.org.uk 15 0808 8002222 Gingerbread (single parent families) www.gingerbread.org.uk 16 0808 802 0925 Reunite International (for parents of abducted children) www.reunite.org 17 01162 556 234 Advice and support for adults caring for children Barnardo s www.barnardos.org.uk 18 National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) www.nspcc.org.uk 19 0808 800 5000 Advice and support for older people Action on Elder Abuse www.elderabuse.org.uk 080 8808 8141 General advice Citizens Advice Bureau www.adviceguide.org.uk 20 Aldershot 08444 111 304 Alton 0844 4111306 (landlines) / 0300 3300650 (mobiles) Andover and District 01264 365534 Basingstoke 0844 2451283 Camberley 01276 684 342 Eastleigh 023 8061 6046 Farnborough 08444 111 304 Farnham 0844 848 7969 Fleet 01252 617922 Godalming 0844 848 7969 Guildford 01483 576699 Tadley 01189 817760 Yateley 01252 878410 West Berkshire 08444 77 99 80 Winchester 01962 848000 Housing Basingstoke and Deane Borough Council Housing Services www.basingstoke.gov.uk 21 01256 844844 East Hampshire District Council Housing Options and Advice Team www.easthants.gov.uk 22 01730 234345 Eastleigh Borough Council Housing Services www.eastleigh.gov.uk 23 023 80688165 Guildford Borough Council Housing Advice Centre www.guildford.gov.uk 24 01483 444244 Hart District Council Housing Services www.hart.gov.uk 25 01252 622122 Rushmoor Borough Council Housing Services www.rushmoor.gov.uk 26 01252 398399 Surrey Heath Borough Council www.surreyheath.gov.uk/housing 27 01276 707127 Test Valley Borough Council Housing Options Team www.testvalley.gov.uk 28 01264 368000 / 01792 527700 Waverley Borough Council Housing and Tenancy www.waverley.gov.uk 29 01483 523169 West Berkshire Council Housing Operations Team www.westberks.gov.uk 30 01635 519530 Shelter www.shelter.org.uk 31 0808 8004444 Legal advice Criminal Injuries Compensation Authority www.cica.gov.uk 32 0800 358 3601 Community Legal Advice https://claonlineadvice.justice.gov.uk 33 0845 345 4 345 National Centre for Domestic Violence www.ncdv.org.uk 34 0844 8044 999 Specialist advice, counselling and support Forced Marriage Unit www.fco.gov.uk 35 020 7008 0151 National Stalking Helpline www.stalkinghelpline.org 36 0808 802 0300 Rape Crisis Helpline www.rapecrisis.org.uk 37 0808 8029999 Relate www.relate.org.uk 38 0300 1001234 Samaritans www.samaritans.org 39 0845 7909090 Victim Support www.victimsupport.org.uk 40 0845 3030900 You can call us free on 0800 195 5515 or email email@example.com 41 for more information.
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